You’ve probably heard the saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” But let’s be honest, we all do it. We see a book, and our brain automatically begins to judge it based on its appearance, which is the first thing we see.
It’s no wonder, then, that when we encounter two books bearing the same title, our curiosity leans towards the one with the more visually appealing cover. This phenomenon arises from our inclination to appraise something based on its attractiveness before considering its contents.
This behaviour parallels the approach a writer takes to capture our attention; they understand that crafting an alluring book cover is the key to sparking our interest. Without this initial appeal, we might not bother to delve deeper – a parallel to how we often size up people we encounter for the first time.
If someone looks or acts differently than we do, we make hasty judgements about them, which often dictate how we interact with them moving forward. While this often happens naturally because of our tendency towards vigilance, it is crucial to find the balance between forming an opinion too quickly and giving people a chance.
Even before buying a book, we examine it closely to ensure that it is a good buy overall, regardless of how beautiful the cover appears. And we may still be persuaded to buy a low-quality one if we find the content has substance.
Similarly, every person mirrors a book, boasting diverse exteriors but depth that only becomes evident as we draw near. Hence, considering someone just based on their appearance can be harmful to them and the relationship they could potentially form.
We risk misinterpreting risks as opportunities and opportunities as threats, both of which could be devastating for us. It’s important to remember that everyone has a story and a complex inner life that we can only understand if we take the time to get to know them.
Instead of jumping to conclusions about others, let’s try taking the time to learn more about them. We may be surprised at what we find.