Loving a person does not require approving every action or abandoning your boundaries. This reflection explores compassion, accountability and the difference between a person’s dignity and the effects of their behaviour.
A practical starting point
- Describe the behaviour specifically, rather than labelling the whole person.
- Name a boundary you can communicate clearly and follow through on.
- Seek support where a relationship involves intimidation, coercion or harm.
For further prayer and study, explore the related scripture collection. Read the passages in context and use the reflection prompts at your own pace.
The reflection
I may not agree with your behaviour, but that doesn’t mean I dislike you as a person. I believe we are called to reject actions that are not Christ-like, and to address those behaviours, not to reject the individual. To dislike someone as God’s creation would be to say that His work isn’t good, but I believe He made all things beautiful.
Everyone has the free will to choose their actions, and if those actions don’t align with Jesus’ teachings, I cannot condone them. I will respectfully disagree with those behaviours, but I will never treat you unfairly because of them.
We can disagree and hold one another accountable, yet still show compassion and understanding. It’s the behaviour I oppose, not the person.